"If a husband beats his wife, there is nothing wrong in it".
"Because if a man looks after his wife very well, there is no harm if he indulges in violence. He can raise his hands on his wife".
Doesn't it sound shocking?
It would sound more so when you know that this 'beautiful' observation was made by none other than a man sitting at a high status in the judicial system of India. Yes, these lines came from a High Court Judge in the state of Karnataka.
A woman had moved the legal system seeking divorce from her husband. Her plea w as that her husband abuses her and beats her therefore she wanted to get away from him.
The reason was good enough for granting divorce.
What the court could have done was to establish the truth. If the woman was stating facts she should have been granted relief.
But what the court did was to solicit its most weird advice to the petitioner. The court said - "A woman should maintain balance between her role as a mother and a wife - between her responsibility of bringing up children and her married life".
Sadly, this is not the first time such an observation has been made by the court. Earlier also a court had observed that "There is nothing wrong if a mother-in-law kicks her daughter in law with her leg".
So, the judgement is on the expected lines - after all its a man's world, where a woman's dignity and respect are alien words and carry no meaning!
Why do people forget that a woman not only creates a new life but also makes a home and ensures life to all residents of that home and in return she often sacrificing her own welfare!
However, incidences like this explain the situation and status women are living in (in India and even abroad) in the 21st century - as second class citizens.
A United Nation Population Fund Report mentions that around two third of married Indian women are victims of domestic violence. Also, over 55 per cent of women face domestic violence, especially in backward states like Bihar, Madhya Pradesh, Uttar Pradesh. More so, about 70 per cent of married Indian woman between 15 and 50 years of age face violence in some form or the other - it can be domestic violence like beating, physical and mental abuse, rape within marriage or forced sex.
What worries me as where do women activists vanish when these kind of judgements are announced!
Why these stories make mere nine line news hidden in a nondescript corner of a Hindi newspaper?
When will the time come when newspapers will make space for such shameful incidences on their page one?
Does someone has any answers?
"Because if a man looks after his wife very well, there is no harm if he indulges in violence. He can raise his hands on his wife".
Doesn't it sound shocking?
It would sound more so when you know that this 'beautiful' observation was made by none other than a man sitting at a high status in the judicial system of India. Yes, these lines came from a High Court Judge in the state of Karnataka.
A woman had moved the legal system seeking divorce from her husband. Her plea w as that her husband abuses her and beats her therefore she wanted to get away from him.
The reason was good enough for granting divorce.
What the court could have done was to establish the truth. If the woman was stating facts she should have been granted relief.
But what the court did was to solicit its most weird advice to the petitioner. The court said - "A woman should maintain balance between her role as a mother and a wife - between her responsibility of bringing up children and her married life".
Sadly, this is not the first time such an observation has been made by the court. Earlier also a court had observed that "There is nothing wrong if a mother-in-law kicks her daughter in law with her leg".
So, the judgement is on the expected lines - after all its a man's world, where a woman's dignity and respect are alien words and carry no meaning!
Why do people forget that a woman not only creates a new life but also makes a home and ensures life to all residents of that home and in return she often sacrificing her own welfare!
However, incidences like this explain the situation and status women are living in (in India and even abroad) in the 21st century - as second class citizens.
A United Nation Population Fund Report mentions that around two third of married Indian women are victims of domestic violence. Also, over 55 per cent of women face domestic violence, especially in backward states like Bihar, Madhya Pradesh, Uttar Pradesh. More so, about 70 per cent of married Indian woman between 15 and 50 years of age face violence in some form or the other - it can be domestic violence like beating, physical and mental abuse, rape within marriage or forced sex.
What worries me as where do women activists vanish when these kind of judgements are announced!
Why these stories make mere nine line news hidden in a nondescript corner of a Hindi newspaper?
When will the time come when newspapers will make space for such shameful incidences on their page one?
Does someone has any answers?
3 comments:
An average man fears woman and her immense powers, and retaliates in a manner which is quite unmanly. Secondly, if a male child does not learn to have immense respect and love for womanhood and women in general, and, a female child is not taught to respect her own breed with deep confidence and strength, there is no society or law that could further change her/ his running her/ his own life and ruining others'.
True to some extent where you talk about boys. But what I would like to say is that even if a woman is taught as a child to respect her own breed and is full of confidence, she sometimes gets into circumstances where she has to go through such hell.
"... to respect her own breed and is full of confidence..." would succeed only when male also learns to respect her. Else, it would lead to conflicts and conflicts. We need to make life beautiful for both.
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