Recently, in Madhya Pradesh, a few young girls had to go through the trauma of getting their virginity tested before their marriage. They were also tested for any probable pregnancy. This was done to girls whose marriage was fixed under a government scheme - Mukhya Mantri Kanya Daan Yojna (Chief Minister Girls' Marriage Scheme). In such schemes, carrying on in some states of India with an aim to help poor families, the government gives a certain amount of money to the girls' families to get them married and sometimes this money is given to the couple to set up their homes.
The news was obviously shocking, at least to me. I pinched myself to know which century I am living in. Is it 21st century? Is it the new millennium? In this age when we, instead of preaching single partner norm to the next generation, tell them about safe sex, the grooms are going for virginity tests of their prospective brides!!! It's shocking!!!!
The issue which bothered me and concerned me was not the virginity test but was more serious as to why the virginity test of only girls. Why not same procedure for boys? Who has ever questioned the virginity of a boy? If not, why raise a question on the virgnity of a girl?
There is an age-old theory goes behind this shameful practice; physically, it does not affect the boys if they have sex before marriage but it does leave an impact on a girl's physiology. Fine, accepted. But the question is; when a girl accepts a boy without knowing or raising doubts over his virginity who has given the right to anyone to question a girl's virginity? It is not only insulting but utterly humiliating for a girl to go through virginity test because some one else is curious to know if she had sex before her marriage.
Unfortuntaley, in India the practice goes on even in educated families - not so blatantly though.
My point of view is; in this era and in this society (I am talking of Indian society) where late marriage is a common phenomenon, homosexuality is getting acceptance, a large number of young boys and girls opt to remain single by choice and awareness regarding HIV/AIDS is increasing, we should not see sex as something out of this planet. It is a physical need and we should not assume that our young growing kids would abstain from it just because they are not married.
Youth is the age which is most curious to know all aspects of sex and wants to experience it the most. But this is also the age when most youngsters are either studying or pursuing their careers and they don't want to get entangled in familial responsibilities. So, should they forget about their biological needs? It is simply and practically not possible! They will explore this aspect of life whether the parents accept it or deny it, or remain oblivious to visible needs of their children.
Instead of feigning ignorance of this logical behaviour of our children, I think, each parent should grab this moment as an opportunity to educate his/her child about safe sex in context to diseases, infections, unwanted pregnancies and over all reproductive health.
Let's educate our children on how to safeguard themselves from getting infected with HIV or from contacting STDs. While doing this, we can also check the growing population of the nation by telling them to live like responsible citizens, instead of creating an unnecessary brouhaha over virginity of a girl.
6 comments:
this is shockning.
and i like , no love the part about why not test the boy's virginity too.
I think it is none of any one's business and it should only be left at the discretion of the girl, or the boy for that matter. no one has the right to know.
we are clearly living in the 17th century.
but keep bringing up topics like this atleast we know what really is happening to people around us.
cheers to you!
this is shockning.
and i like , no love the part about why not test the boy's virginity too.
I think it is none of any one's business and it should only be at the discretion of the girl, or the boy for that matter. no one has the right to know.
we are clearly living in the 17th century.
but keep bringing up topics like this atleast we know what really is happening to people around us.
cheers to you!
Clearly girls must be tested for virginity test,Infact no boy would like to marry a bitch who breaks her hymen before marriage.The reason why boys don't get tested because if the girls can be controlled in any country,then the country will flourish . In a country where girls break there hymen before marriage, the society will breakdown.Altough to promote sex many doctors and idiots give opinion that hymen could break during cycling ,dance etc,but that is a 1 in 10000 case.
This has nothing to do with 10th century or 21st century,if you are accepting a girl with a broken hymen(a bitch,of course),then your marriage life can never last happily.
This arguement of hymen being breaken unknowingly is given by girls and women who are openminded bitches that have grown very faster in our country.
Most of the men including vasudev are dogs .No girl (either virgin or not) would like to marry a boy like vasudev.
This is also shameful for me, when we worship a stone as a DEVI but why the society do like this.
I am very shameful to know this anti women stem about her virginity. When we all worship a women as a DEVI made by Stone in Temples.
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