Thursday 23 September 2010

just a housewife.....

One of my friends was sitting at a cafe where a western woman started a conversation with her. She asked my friend, ``what do you do?'' My friend replied, ``Nothing, I am just a housewife.''

In another incident, one day one of my friends husband came home from office and found the house in mess, children playing outside, dog sitting on sofa watching TV and wife still in bed. He woke up his wife and asked if everything was alright. The wife casually replied, ``Yeah, all well... Just that every evening you ask me what did I do the whole day. Well, today I didn't do that.''

No need to explain these two incidents as they carry heavy message in them.

A housewife slogs the whole day investing in humans, enabling them to perform better physically, emotionally and economically and thereby contribute more substantially to the society. But she is referred as``just a housewife''. The husbands are often seen confronting them scornfully what they did the whole day - as if they have only relaxed. These housewives and also many other such women remain invisible to the society for their contribution towards development.

India has a huge force of these fine and efficient workers, whose contribution in the society is huge and invaluable but it cannot be rated in economic terms. Unfortunately this contribution is seldom recognised and this force remains invisible to everyone, especially to economists.

This fifty percent of the nation's population is building homes, educating children, nursing those who are unwell, looking after people's health and nutrition; they also look after the cattle at home and till the agriculture fields, which their families own, bring water for everyone from far away places and do so many other odd jobs - but their diligent service to the society is mostly taken for granted. Their indirect but significant contribution to nation's economy is not taken in the purview of economic activities.

Mind you, there is no day off for this work force and no short breaks; they are on duty seven days a week and 365 days a year.

Often a question is asked as to why such low participation of women in labour - the answer is simple - they are not low in numbers but they are invisible.

Thankfully, a concern is emerging and the issue is now reaching the conference rooms. Recently, it was raised by a few concerned voices at an interface organised in the state capital, Delhi..

The event was a joint effort of Friederich Ebert Stiftung (FES) - a German Political Foundation and Women's Feature Service (WFS) - India's one and only women's feature syndicate. Damayanti Sridharan, senior advisor FES and Pamela Philipose, the Editor WFS were the brains behind the interface.
Eminent speakers like Bina Agarwal, the Director Indian Institute of Economic Growth (Delhi University), Reiko Tsushima, the Senior Gender Specialist of International Labour Organisation (ILO), Sunita Dhar of Jagori - a civil society organisation extensively working on issue of violence against women, social activist and politician Subhashini Ali, Senior development journalist Usha Rai and many more voices straight from the field shared their experiences and thoughts to take the issue to some logical solution.

What everyone felt was a need for the social workers, activists and other intellectuals to evolve ways so that this unpaid and unrecognised work by women force is acknowledged.

It will however start when women themselves will start valuing their meaningful contribution to the society.

Now we go back to the first two anecdotes - when my friend told the western woman that she was ``just a housewife'', the western woman had instantly snapped her with her comment, ``But being housewife is a 24 hour job of immense responsibility. You are doing so much for the society.''

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5 comments:

Tapan Mozumdar said...

Curiously, all the ladies voicing for the cause are much bigger 'achievers' than 'just a housewife'! Wonder if 'just housewives' are ever invited to participate such forum! And if the 'benefits' of these brainstorms shall ever reach them.

Alka Pande said...

if housewives had been understanding their worth the issue wouldn't have needed to be raised by women who are working outside their homes.
also, the purpose is not to take this issue to women at homes but to let the policy makers understand the importance of the contribution these housewives are making in the society....

Rashi lamba said...

Glen Campbell - Dreams Of The Everyday Housewife lyrics


She looks in the mirror and stares at the wrinkles that weren't there yesterday
And thinks of the young man that she almost married
What would he think if he saw her this way?

She picks up her apron in little girl-fashion as something comes into her mind
Slowly starts dancing rememb'ring her girlhood
And all of the boys she had waiting in line

Oh, such are the dreams of the everyday housewife
You see ev'rywhere any time of the day
An everyday housewife who gave up the good life for me

The photograph album she takes from the closet and slowly turns the page
And carefully picks up the crumbling flower
The first one he gave her now withered with age

She closes her eyes and touches the house dress that suddenly disappears
And just for the moment she's wearing the gown
That broke all their minds back so many years

Oh, such are the dreams of the everyday housewife
You see ev'rywhere any time of the day
An everyday housewife who gave up the good life for me

Oh, such are the dreams of the everyday housewife
You see ev'rywhere any time of the day
An everyday housewife who gave up the good life for me

Oh, such are the dreams of the everyday housewife

FADE
You see ev'rywhere any time of the day
An everyday housewife...

Without housewife, there will be neither home nor human race

In the modern world, everyone knows the price of almost everything, but few realise the value of anything. Many value the value- less, but do not price the priceless. Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies and diamonds. " A conscientious and dutiful housewife is truly a treasure beyond, measure."

The occupation of a housewife or a housekeeper is so taken for granted that it is very often slighted as something trivial and insignificant.

alka said...

beautiful......
it explains all....

TUTI said...

Dear Alkaji,
found very informative blog. As you mentioned about some German organisation working for cause of woman. This is where I find it strange that Germany govt head is a lady Frau Merkel but German Industry never give chance to any lady in top industry. Persons of foreign origin is rare too. We have a German lady who runs Taj hotel in India US have Indian lady as ceo of Pepsi but we cannot expect this from German industry.
In other case like conflict matters too UN woman peace keeping in Africa brought good results. In Kashmir too woman soldiers with local experts might bring good results. See
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/03/06/world/africa/06iht-ffpeace.html
I myself promote the idea to have more woman in German industry. Above all German industry pay almost 23% less money to a lady employee. So things are not perfect even in so called civilized advance country like Germany but we have to do some constructive work. When I will open my office in Delhi I will hire a German lady as manager and in Germany I will hire an Indian lady as Manager. This is my way of protest!