Moral police is once again on the prowl. ``Girls cannot wear jeans and no sleeveless dresses for them.'' This was a recent diktat for college going girls of the industrial capital of Uttar Pradesh - Kanpur. The reason these college principals gave for passing the diktat was; tight jeans and sleeveless dresses provoke men and force them to eve tease and therefore, to check cases of eve teasing, girls should start dressing in more `decent' attires.
Interesting... if men are not able to control their desires, it's women or the way they dress, should be blamed. So women should not dress in a ``provocative'' way so that to excite the opposite sex.
The episode makes me think of all those rapes and molestations of either minors and rural women, which are frequently taking place in our society. A question : If revealing or sexy dresses ignite the desire in a man, why there are rapes of minors and why the rural women are molested and why is there incest?
Does a five or six year old innocent girl in a frock incite sexual desires in a man? Does a rural woman covered from head to toe in a sari awakens a carnal longing in a man? What is it that forces a man to turn into an animal? It is certainly not the attire of the woman. In fact it has nothing to do with looks or dress of a woman.
The answer lies within a man. What makes a man become an animal and resort to this wild animal like behaviour? Has any court anywhere all across the globe tried to analyse what goes into a man's mind when he molests a child playing in the park or when he rapes a woman working in the field. It is not her dress or her looks but it is the brainless beast within the man, which prowls on its prey in a fit of hunger, with no thinking involved. Probably sex for such men is hunger for body. If hungry such men can eat any food, anywhere and in the same way if hungry for body, they can consume any body anywhere.
Think of it ; why do women not behave in the same way? Why are there no stories of women rapists and molesters? Do they not have sexual urges or do they not feel turned on by a man's body? Or do they not feel hungry for body?
May be not. In my view, sex for women is not hunger or desire - it is a form of expression of her love for her man. When words fail to tell the beloved how strongly the woman feels for him, she surrenders her complete self before her man. No hesitations, no boundaries, no words. The language of touch starts, skins whisper and silently the bodies do the talking and this communication is called - lovemaking.
That is also a reason why a woman generally does not feel hungry to devour ``any'' man but she relishes ``her'' man - every bit of him when in love. For her excitement comes when the man whispers something nice into her ears. She gets turned on when the man runs his fingers in her locks. Then it is nothing to do with looks or attire.
Why cannot these men - who get excited just by the look of a butt in a tight jeans or feel turned on by the sight of flesh in a sleeveless dress - think and rise beyond body.
Try touching a soul and guaranteed you will feel the biggest O.
